As we approach the end of another year, many people will be looking forward to the festive season and the chance to slow down and catch up with family, particularly older parents. Busy lives and distant homes can make it easy to feel out of touch. But this may be a time when adult children notice changes in their ageing parents and can also be a time for parents to take control over their future with advice and family discussions.
The signs of ageing may be distressing and worrying for many people, but they are a natural part of life, especially with our increasing longevity.
The problem is not getting old. The problem is not having an effective plan for how to grow old. This plan needs to consider strategies to ensure the home environment and care supports are appropriate, as well as how to fund quality levels of care.
Don’t wait until a crisis has occurred to take action. Planning ahead and professional advice are the keys to quality care and effective decision-making.
The journey may not be easy, and hard decisions may need to be made. Seeking objective advice from an Accredited Aged Care Professional TM can help to convert the mountain of data on aged care into meaningful and relevant information and ultimately into appropriate decisions.
Signs Someone needs help
- Missed appointments
- Appliances left on
- Unclean house
- Unexplained dents in car
- Empty fridge/ not eating
- Changes in personal hygiene
- Forgetting to take medication
- House/garden appears neglected
- Loss of interest in hobbies/activities
- Depressed mood or behaviour changes
It might be time for a family meeting
New Year is traditionally a time to take stock and plan ahead. And the festive season might be one of the few opportunities during the busy year for discussions with all those people who are important to you
If you have older parents, take the time this year to raise the issue with your parents and your siblings or other family members and seek advice to start building a family action plan. If you are that older person, the festive season provides you with an opportunity to bring your adult children together to discuss your care needs. Make yourself heard whilst you are still able to maintain your control and independence and put strategies into place.
The value of a family meeting
A family meeting is an essential step in planning for aged care and may help to minimise conflicts within your family. Emotional conflicts between family members can make the transition to care more distressing for an older parent and have the potential to rip families apart.
A well-run family meeting can allow parents, children and other family members to discuss issues and preferences, express concerns and make decisions that work for your family as a whole.
As an Accredited Aged Care Professional ™ I can assist with arranging and running a family meeting to help your family see the big picture more objectively. Together we can consider the options for your parents’ care, security and happiness.
The earlier you take this step, the better. Planning ahead ensures that parents are fully involved in the decision-making and removes some of the stress from other family members. With a well organised plan in place, your family can respond more quickly and effectively when an event requiring a move to aged care occurs.
Why have a family meeting?
- Explore priorities and preferences and help the family share a common view
- Understand how age care works and the options available
- Understand the costs of care and what you might need to pay
- Consider the role of the home in funding care
- Review cashflow needs
- Ensure the estate plan reflects your parents’ wishes
Your action plan
- Be observant
- Talk to your family about problems
- Talk to your parents about their future and what they feel is important
- Understand the care options and start research
- Check that current Wills and Powers of Attorney are in place and appropriate
- Learn where all the important documents are kept
Talk to me today.
Lyn Walker is an ACS Accredited Aged Care Professional™ and can take away a lot of the stress and complexity of the aged care process.
Disclaimer: Lyn Walker is Practice Principal of Advicelink Financial Planning, authorised representatives of Lifespan Financial Planning AFSL 229892. Any advice in this publication is of a general nature only and has not been tailored to your personal circumstances. Accordingly, reliance should not be placed on the information contained in this document as the basis for making any financial investment, insurance or other decision. Please seek personal advice prior to acting on this information.